Lingam massage can be a superb way of treating your partner. Learn how to give one to make it really count!

Partially derived from tantric teachings, partially from western sexology, the lingam massage is a superbly pleasurable mix with countless upsides and zero downsides. In this article, you’re going to learn some basic strokes and techniques that will make you partner more than satisfied – he’ll be over the moon!

Lingam massage – before you start, make the setting count!

·         This thing is better not to be rushed too much. Leave aside a big enough time window – two hours at least! And make sure you have nothing else planned for the day. You’re going to need some time to process things afterwards.

·         Get some towels ready to dry and clean things up afterwards. Prepare some massage oils-you’re going to need them. This article describes some of the quality massage oils. Ideally, the oils should be heated up a little bit prior to the start.

·         If you’d like, to decorate or tweak the place however you like, whether that’s setting up some candles, spreading out rose petals, putting on some relaxing music – the choice is yours, really!

Before you start, make sure you are both thoroughly relaxed

Meditation is a good tool, as well as mutual eye gazing (eyes are the windows to the soul, after all), deep breathing exercises, holding each other’s hands, complimenting each other, and, of course, taking a warm bath or shower. Ideally, together!

A full-body massage will deepen the relaxation even further…

Yes, this massage is focused primarily on the genital area. That, however, doesn’t mean that you should pay no attention to the rest of your partner’s body. Chances are, it really needs a boost. Stroke and knead those muscles, focusing especially on the neck and shoulder areas, where they tend to be the stiffest. But don’t omit the rest – give him a nice, full-body treatment before going for the big prize!

Sit between your partner’s legs and connect

The five strokes that you’re going to absolutely need

Begin with covering your partner’s penis with a decent enough amount of massaging oil and then proceed to deliver these five basic strokes. There is, of course, a much wider repertoire of strokes in the lingam treatment, but for start, try the following:

1.    The “Lingam Shiatsu”. This stroke starts at the root of the penis shaft. Gently press it between your thumb and index fingers, release. Do the same a bit higher and then continue to the top this way.

2.    Th “skiing”. Gently grab the side of the lingam with your hand and then “ski” upwards with your thumb, all the way to the tip. Do the same with your other hand on the other side. Repeat several times, try different speed and pressures.

3.    The “screwdriver” might be the most powerful one. Grab the lingam with both hands, and then twist in the opposite direction. Gently, please, otherwise it’s going to hurt instead!

4.    Try circling the tip of your thumb and index finger around the frenulum, which is the part of the penis just under its head. This is a slow sort of a “filler”

5.    The “Worship”. With fingers crossed as if you were praying, grab your partner’s penis. After that, open your thumbs and start sliding them up and down along the side of the shaft.

So, these were the lingam basics – put them to good use if you decide to try this. And remember – take it slow and don’t rush to orgasm quickly – that’s not the goal!

What helps you and your partner relax the most? Tell us your secrets in the comment section!